Overwhelming Memories?

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There is nothing in the world which can be compared to the smile brought to your face by a pleasant memory. It  feels just as like the breeze which blows over your face in the evening at the beginning of spring. But what if the good memories end up upsetting you? Sadden you? What if you did not want to remember it? What if it brings pain? What if the person with which it is associated is no longer there? And the constant battle you have to fight with reality and yourself. Reality seems hardest to grasp and rationalisation toughest to exercise! The past starts to hover over the present and the probability of past events comes to the fore- wish i had done this / wish i had done that etc. etc.

      It is hard, especially when it was you who had a part in past happenings. It is hard to come to terms with the past which is against your inner most wants, but which had to be exerted because it was probably the right thing to do. Abstractness of this life baffles you. There is nothing which is concrete, nothing which is absolute. Life becomes a relativity of contrasts.

       But i believe this too shall pass. I believe everything happens for good. I believe if it was meant to be mine, it would have definitely be. Living in delusions may seem to be the easiest way out, but when reality strikes it strikes hard. Better if we keep struggling every day… little by little until we reach a point where we can peacefully live with our present and satisfyingly look at our past. Until that happens keep fighting!

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Dealing With Negative People

Hmmm, so we all come across such people all the time. The idea is not to let them get into your head and trust me sometimes it gets hard. But hard as it may be you ought to do yourself this favor. You cannot imagine the amount of time we waste giving our attention to such people. They literally suck out our mental energy and this can be very toxic. A few tips to deal with the stress caused by such difficult people in your life:-

1. ANALYZE

You don’t want to spend a lot of time on this. Just get your priorities straight. Letting yourself down for something which someone else said is not what one should be doing. Move on. Get going with what really matters to you.

2. SEE THE BIG PICTURE

Don’t sweat the small stuff. What happened has already happened. Learn from the experience and let it go. Ten, twenty years from now this bad experience is not going to affect you. So its better to only address it and forget it. Don’t pay any more attention otherwise a small incidence will definitely gonna turn into something big which eventually gonna harm you.

3. COMPASSION

Whatever it may be, they are human beings too. What’s the point of living if we don’t learn to forgive our fellow beings who are just like us but with different experiences and perspectives? Remember –

To err is human, to forgive is divine. “

Be a bigger person and have compassion even for the people who are against you. In the end, life comes down to a few moments which define you. Work for those moments and FORGIVE!

I wish you strength and peace and joy!

Life…

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FEAR holds us back from experiencing the true riches of life!
Life is beyond expectations,
Life is beyond sanity
And life is beyond clichés!
Never close yourself,
Life is beyond your reality…